Why Your Parenting Mindset Holds the Secret to Resilient Kids 🧠💪

Hi [First Name],

After a wonderful long weekend filled with downtime, connection, and play, I've been reflecting a lot on the concept of mindset. It truly has the power to make or break an interaction with your child. Let's dive into it a bit and explore some ideas that can help you harness this powerful tool.

Last week, my son came home from school looking upset. When I asked what was wrong, he snapped, “Nothing, I’m fine! Stop asking me!!” 😤

In the past, I might’ve jumped in with advice or tried to “fix” things, or correct him on his tone. But this time, I paused and asked myself: What’s really going on here? Instead of reacting, I sat beside him, started working on a jigsaw puzzle, and waited. Slowly, he started helping with the puzzle and eventually began to open up, and we had a meaningful conversation. 🧩

That moment reminded me just how powerful our mindset is in parenting. The way we respond to these small moments shapes our connection with our kids—and plays a key role in helping them develop resilience. It's one of the first things I explore with new clients: "What happens right after your child shows a challenging emotion?" I've had so many conversations with parents like you who’ve simply added a moment of pause before responding, and they’ve been left speechless by the impact.

Here’s the shift that makes a difference:

• Pause & Connect: Instead of reacting straight away, take a moment to understand the feeling behind the behaviour. 👀 There’s no need to respond immediately. Give everyone a little time and space before jumping in. This helps prevent escalation and gives your child the space they need to process their feelings.
• Model Resilience: When we face setbacks with calm and composure, we show our kids how to bounce back. 💪 Take a moment to talk to your child about the challenges you faced during the day or any worries you have about what’s coming up. It’s important for them to see you navigate difficult situations with patience and calm. My son, for example, always asks how my tricky meetings went if he knows I was worried about them—it’s a great way for him to see resilience in action!
• Set Boundaries with Love: Clear boundaries give children a sense of security and respect, while empowering them to grow. 🚦 If you find yourself setting boundaries in anger, take a breath and step back. It’s important to reset your own energy before enforcing a limit—this helps you stay calm and ensure the boundary is communicated with love and respect.

Here’s the reality: Knowing the theory of effective parenting is one thing, but putting it into practice can be tough. It takes time, practice, and real effort. That’s where the power of group coaching comes in. 👥

I’m excited to announce my 12-week group coaching programme starting this April, where we’ll dive deep into key topics like attachment, emotional intelligence, communication, aggression and brain science—giving you the tools to respond to your child with confidence. We’ll take the guesswork out of parenting and remove the unrealistic expectation that parents should just “know” all of this. After 20 years of teaching, personal reading, research, and further study, I can tell you—I STILL stumble in my parenting journey! So let’s stop making it so difficult. AND, you’ll be alongside other parents who are walking the same path, supporting one another every step of the way. By the end, you'll feel a sense of calm and clarity in those intense moments—when your child is upset or acting out, you’ll know exactly how to respond without feeling frazzled or uncertain. No more yelling or going to bed wondering what the heck just happened. You’ll handle tough situations with patience and confidence, and feel empowered to lead with love. Plus, you’ll have a supportive group of parents who’ve got your back, ready to lift you up when you need it most.

As this is my first group programme, I’m offering it at a special reduced rate for a limited number of spots.

Want in? Join the waiting list now to be the first to hear when more details are released.

I’d love to hear from you: What’s been your toughest parenting moment, and how did you navigate it? Hit reply and share—I’m here to learn from you too!

Love,

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Fiona ✨

Journal Prompt What emotions or behaviours in your child tend to trigger you the most?

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